Thursday, October 9, 2008
Learning To Like Yourself
Today I would like to talk about learning to like yourself,you and I have to learn to deal with our "do" separately from our "who"? The fact is, no one does everything right all the time, but that doesn’t affect who I am. We have made mistakes in our lives and I’m sure we'll still make mistakes in the future—but we still must like ourselves.
If you like yourself—even though others may not—you’ll make it. When you start to like yourself, other people begin to like you too. Liking yourself doesn’t mean you’re full of pride; it simply means you accept yourself as the person God created you to be. We all need changes in our behavior, but accepting ourselves as God’s creation is vital to our progress in becoming an emotionally healthy person. If we can master this one thing—liking ourselves—it will work wonders in helping us to overcome a shame-based nature. OK maybe let me explain what I mean.
Many people live under what I can call the curse of failure. They can never do anything they set out to do. They’re always failing, always messing up, always getting disappointed, discouraged and depressed. They don’t like who they are because they’ve adopted a shame-based nature.
For a long time I didn’t like my personality, and since my personality is who I am, I didn’t like me. I didn’t want to be as bold and straightforward as I am. I didn’t want to be so direct and blunt. I wanted to be like one of my friends. She had a gift of being sweet, kind and gentle. What I didn’t realize is that she was just born that way—and I wasn’t. Because I didn’t like my personality and who I was, I tried to change myself. I wanted to be more like my friend. I tried to be the perfect girl but I always upset or disappoint the ones I love especially my mum.
It didn’t work. I was just trying to be something I wasn’t. Finally, I had to learn to accept myself the way I was and let go of the idea of being like someone else. I began to realize that, although I did need to change some areas of my life, who I am will never change.
For example, those are physically abuse,being called funny names or being verbally insulted is a very destructive disorder in Bongo today. These kind of people who are distructed can never enjoy their lives.
Workaholics,emotionally destroyed and physically abused are examples of the types of people who really haven’t learned to simply like who they are. Shame, because of something they may have happened or done in their past, has caused them to dislike themselves. Remember, you must separate your "do" from your "who". You’re a unique and special individual, with God-given talents and skills. And even though you may have made mistakes in the past, it’s time to move on and learn to like yourself!